Manifesting Situations in our life for ultimate growth

Manifesting Growth Opportunities

I had a dream last night that I showed up to work without my uniform. It got me thinking. I believe we manifest situations and people in our lives for ultimate growth and learning, especially if these situations and people really get under our skin. When this happens in my life, I take it as a sign that some part of me wants to leap out of a self-imposed box and have a breakthrough – almost as if to say: I’ve had enough of being bothered and want to move on from this ridiculousness. 

Just so happens I’m in one of those situations now! (How fortunate!) I’ve taken a part-time job in an elementary school’s cafeteria as a kitchen assistant. I began to notice the flavor of the company during the hiring process: Turns out this company is obsessed with following rules and regulations – all the boxes must be ticked, and I know this because I heard it more than a few times from people in human resources.

Real Life Mimics Internal Self - A Personal Account of my Recent Hiring Experience

Human Resources

I found the process very cumbersome and de-humanizing. There was little to no communication from HR staff and the process – from application to staring work – took well over a month. I was even delayed an extra day from starting because at the very last moment, they were questioning my settlement visa and US passport for my right to work here in the UK.

I thought, slapping my hand to my forehead, what the heck, they can’t be serious . . .

  • They had copies of my passport and visa for at least a month and waited to the last minute to see if I could work legally?
  • I’ve already worked for large companies in the UK and gave them those references
  • I pay taxes and National Insurance here for which they have received a form from my last employer and the government . . .
  • Albeit – it’s not written on my SETTLEMENT ID card that I have the right to work in the UK – common sense for Human Resource professionals I would have thought, given that I am now a resident of the UK and inherent in that is the right to work.
  • I was told – “We have to tick all the boxes.” – which to me this means – we’re not paying attention to all the evidence you’ve given us that clearly states you have the right to work here – we have tunnel vision and are only focused on this box.
  • I am not a human being – I am someone to be processed.

Just to show how ridiculous and far-reaching tunnel vision can get. Well, after running around to two different HR locations with all kinds of proof – they finally agreed – yes, it’s ok for you to work.

Real Life Mimics Internal Self - A Personal Account of my Recent Hiring Experience
You Sure?

Health and Safety . . .

I started working mainly in the washing up area of the kitchen. No problems, great so far until Friday. The Area Manager (who isn’t always at our school) asked me if I’ve seen the Health and Safety Manual for the dishwasher or the manual for chemicals. No, I said, not yet. She explained that I needed to put salt into the dishwasher to help with limescale build up. I said: No problem,  I’ve done this tons of times in other jobs.

She takes out the Health and Safety Manual and goes through a whole page of safety issues for putting salt into a dishwasher. There goes my hand to my forehead again – in disbelief – more rules and regulations. After going through the procedure with the Area Manager – I’m finding myself holding a pair of gloves and goggles? Are you serious? I have to wear gloves and goggles to put salt into a dishwasher?

I’m ready!! Bring it on you badass dishwasher!

By the way, my area manager is lovely and well-meaning, no disrespect at all intended. She is doing her job as she agreed to do when she signed on with this company. The other staff were laughing – and rightly so. It’s all a bit OTT . . . but why am I surprised given my hiring process experience?

Human beings are regulated to death: killing creative thinking and initiative, slowly and steadily suppressing and dumbing down the human spirit.

The procedure felt de-humanizing and de-moralizing to say the least. Rules and regulations are disempowering societies in the name of health and safety. Don’t get me wrong, I’m glad to be working for a well-meaning company that is at least looking out for potential hazards and is interested in the safety of their employees, but I’m also aware that Health and Safety has gotten out of hand.

Real Life Mimics Internal Self - A Personal Account of my Recent Hiring Experience

The Bigger Picture and Personal Implication

So what are the implications, why is this bothering me? Well, it started with the de-humanization feeling I felt during the hiring process, and then feeling shame and embarrassment in the assumption that I’m incapable of keeping myself safe in a kitchen – almost like a child. It’s not pleasant, nor is it empowering.

These are deep feelings, ones that are mainly avoided and covered up with anger and possibly leading to depression. If I wasn’t aware of these feelings, I could potentially stay angry with my employer for treating me like a child – ultimately setting myself up for – you guessed it – an accident.

I realize that I am “bothered” by this company’s rules and regulations simply because it’s a mirror reflection of what’s within me. Yes it’s true, part of me is living in a box, with the sides firmly held up in place by my own rules and regulations:

  • Say this, don’t say that
  • Do this, not that
  • Please others before pleasing yourself
  • No you can’t do that, it’s not acceptable
  • Good girls don’t express their anger
  • Keep your head down and follow the rules – you’ll be fine
Real Life Mimics Internal Self - A Personal Account of my Recent Hiring Experience

My dream about forgetting my uniform also adds to this list:

  • Capable, able, dependable people don’t forget their uniform, and
  • People, who live by and judge themselves and others by the rules they keep, don’t forget their uniform to avoid being ridiculed.

Obviously a part of me is beginning to feel demoralized and de-humanized by my self-imposed rules and regulations. I also can see how I judged the HR process, accusing them of “tunnel vision” – which means I too have tunnel vision when I am strictly adhering to my own rules and regulations ticking my own box.

For example, take the statement I made above:

Human beings are regulated to death: killing creative thinking and initiative, slowly and steadily suppressing and dumbing down the human spirit

and turn it around to the self:

I am regulated to death: killing my creative thinking and initiative, slowly and steadily suppressing and dumbing down my spirit.

I’ve been working with feelings of anger and hatred lately. I’ve stuffed them years ago and became depressed in the process. (See below.) I’ve given them permission to surface and be felt – and that’s why, I believe, I’ve found myself in the middle of “rules and regulations” city. I’ve used rules and regulations to keep me in a box, free from feeling ridicule and embarrassment as much as possible.

My real job then, is to find freedom within my self-imposed box. I can do this by accepting “my box” without resistance. I actually have to choose this box (rules and regulation and all the feelings it avoids feeling), I choose to take responsibility for manifesting this situation – because this box lives within myself – and then, and only then, can I break out of my box into freedom . . . ultimately ticking that all important box! 🙂 healing pain.

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I’d love to hear about your experiences out there! Thanks for reading!

9 responses to “Manifesting Growth Opportunities”

  1. AmyRose🌹 Avatar

    Oh wow how this post parallels my life in SO many ways, Donna! I’ve been “forced” to live a life of structure due to what is in my life and if there is one thing that goes directly against my nature is structure. So why did I do that to myself? That remains to be unknown. Fear perhaps of knowing me? On top of that I had a dream last night that the “real me” was inside my skin but because of the tight control I have maintained for the smooth running for others, I in the process have been feeing more and more far away from me. I actually wrote a poem today that depicts this. Lately I just don’t want to push out of the boxes anymore yet I deplore those boxes. All my life I’ve been fighting to get out of those boxes. So the rules and regulations especially living with one who has OCD who cannot tolerate anything out from its place, has had a huge effect on my bubbles. I’m not sure if it is because now I’m “feeling” my Mom’s death that all these other feelings are coming to the surface. I just know I am living a life I wish I could change, but am not able to. I’ve been able to find JOY and Happy within a life of hard work and so many responsibilities, yet lately I just don’t wanna buck the system. Please don’t mind me today, dear friend. I’ve really been examining my life and it has come up lacking, that and I honestly don’t know anymore if I can humanly follow my dreams after the “cat stage” is over with. Thanks for listening!!! I really got a LOT out of your post!! 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

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    1. DonnaG Avatar

      Hi Amy! Thanks for what you shared my friend. I know what you are talking about. As I have matured in age, I am finding myself in the same place you describe. I have noticed that the things that used to motivate me no longer exist – money, success, fitting in, being liked, etc. – and so I feel unmotivated and unchallenged and far away from who I was. It’s like the fight is gone in some way. However – as I have been observing this “me” who seems far away from who I thought was “me” and wondering at times – what happened and am I motivated to even do anything – ever again?? From what I have read on ascension – this is exactly what happens when we leave this world of ego and limitation and enter into a void. What you are describing is what I have been going through too – and it might be the void – the world between worlds – where we release the “fighter” and ego and move more into peace and observation. There is no other explanation I have found. So take heart, know you are evolving into a “you” that you aren’t familiar with yet but soon will be. My rules and regulations box is being challenged now and without it – there will be yet another me who I don’t recognize! Thanks again for sharing yourself!! Much love to you!! Donna

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      1. AmyRose🌹 Avatar

        Donna, you have no idea how much hope you have given me, because I have not ever felt this way before and it is far from comfortable. It’s downright scary. It’s as though I am questioning everything in my life and a huge part of me feels so disconnected from it. I am being challenged in different ways to which I am hearing myself saying …. NO MORE! I’m finding myself shaking as though from a fog as though this is not my life …. it is so strange. THANK YOU for the feedback giving me an idea of what is going on here. I’ve not kept up with the ascension process. Bless you for informing me! You have a great day today!!! 😘

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  2. RajinderPal Malhotra Avatar
    RajinderPal Malhotra

    Love to read it .A nice blog

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    1. DonnaG Avatar

      Thanks Raj! Glad you enjoyed this post! Hope you are well and enjoying India!! Love, Donna


  3. Sue Avatar

    I had this terrible boss once. Everything had to be perfect! And of course we made mistakes. Quit after 2 weeks . Power to your own rules! Love it sister!

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    1. DonnaG Avatar

      Thanks Sue!! You did the right thing – Best to quit a job that doesn’t fit in with your values and integrity. I’m staying with this job for now, the people are great and I know why I’m there, at least some of the reason, for now! Will be interesting!! Love you!!


  4. Julia Preston Avatar

    Last night the world of dreams provided some pretty juicy grist for the mill. I found myself angry and frustrated in a dream about trash — and the good news is that it gave me material for today’s blog. Life gets better and better the more we can look within and take responsibility for our feelings, emotions and judgements! It sure is a lot more rewarding than small talk! I wish more people would focus on the inner world rather than outer. So good for you! Keep oñ keeping on!

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    1. DonnaG Avatar

      Hi Julia! How cool about your dream – I love how the universe works. Nice to know you are out there looking inside – and yes, better than small talk!! I’ll have to go over and check out your post! Thanks!! Donna


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