How to Develop Discernment to Make Your Life Easier

How to use Discernment

The first counsel written over the gateway to the temple of Delphi, “Know Thyself” says it all when it comes to discernment. I have found that discernment has a direct correlation to how well I know myself. Having good discernment can help us with questions like: What is the best decision for me to make in the moment and what is not? What is it I’m feeling – is it mine or someone else’s? Is this career path in my future?

These questions can be answered with discernment. People, places and things either resonate with us or they don’t. So how do we know which to choose when presented with a choice? How do we discern the highest and best for our self?

I believe we all have a soul and our soul carries a blueprint, or rather a wish list, for our lifetime – people we planned to meet, lessons we want to learn, things to experience, locations on earth to live or visit. Things like that. Many times however, more than not, we are unaware of our soul’s intention for us. It’s unconscious because we get a big memory wipe when we arrive here, putting us at a great disadvantage.

But maybe there is a way we can know, a way that can help us start to put pieces together that could help us remember. The way, I have found, is through discernment. When things feel “right” we are on our soul’s path. When they don’t, time to make a course correction.

When we are grounded and clear, it’s easier to discern. If we are worried, fearful, or upset in any way, it’s impossible. This is usually the case when faced with a big decision. Add a family, career, finances, etc. into the mix and there is even more confusion, making it tough to discern what is best. When we allow the opinions of others to influence us, our own discernment usually gets lost.

The more unattached to an outcome, the better. However, removing ourselves from the outcome of a potentially life altering decision is difficult at best. Emotions and feelings can also get in the way and prove to be more of a hinderance. Sometimes these feelings may not even be our own. 

Discernment as defined in Merriam-Webster: the quality of being able to grasp and comprehend what is obscure (not clearly seen).

For me, discernment starts within the self and ends there. It’s purely an inside job and works best when the heart is open. You must know yourself as the counsel states – meaning knowing who you are, your strengths and weaknesses, your wounds, your behaviors and reactions, your feelings, beliefs, values – in short – who you are. Total honesty is needed for this.

Even if you haven’t “found” yourself yet, that’s OK! This is something you know about yourself. This is honest. If you know you are generally swayed by other people’s opinions, this too is fine, again you’re being honest with yourself. I believe this is what is meant by “know thyself.” Knowing who you are without judgment, just the pure honest truth. When there is no judgment, there is unconditional love and it’s easier to access true intelligence from our heart.

Discernment can be as simple as knowing something doesn’t feel right. It can also feel  expansive and positive. Trust these feelings. Like stated above, it’s easier to trust these feelings when one is unattached to an outcome and clear. I find it best to hold off making a decision until I am clear. If I am getting lots of opinions thrown my way I have to literally take a step back and get myself grounded and back into my heart. Only then can I go inside and ask myself what it is I need to know. If it feels expansive and good – it’s for me. If I feel nothing or shut down – it’s a “no.”

How many times have we made decisions that we instinctively knew were wrong only to kick ourselves later? I can raise my hand to that one! What happened? Why do we do this? I am sure there are lots of reasons. For me I can say I was in denial, or I was wanting to please my parents, or I thought I knew what was best for me. I chose not to listen to myself.

On the bright side, I had stacked up experiences that showed me what my discernment was and what it felt like. I had examples of what my “yes” felt like even though I ignored it. I then had to look back to see what was in the way of following through with my “yes.” Why did I choose to go against my own discernment? Fear was my answer. Fear of reprisal, fear of not being loved, fear of making a mistake and/or doing something wrong. I didn’t trust myself either even though initially I knew what was the right thing to do. 

Once I understood these deterrents and negative beliefs lived within me as a human being, then it was easier to just witness all the objections. I could live the rest of this lifetime and probably many others trying to “heal” all of these things only to find there is more, and more, and more things to heal!! Instead I choose to just witness them and allow them to be, not giving them any power over me. Once the objections have their say, I am free to follow my discernment without issue.

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6 thoughts on “How to Develop Discernment to Make Your Life Easier

  1. Well! I can again relate. I think we fall on our faces to learn how to toughen up and wise up to boot. Hopefully. I’ve learned to listen to my Inner Guidance and it is with regret I do admit that every time I go against it, I get burned. Every time! We are not taught in this world to listen to ourselves, to our Hearts, oh no! We are told a lot of fairy tales all so that others can control us. Nope. I refuse to allow that to happen any more. With anything, practice practice practice and practice some more. The lessons, I’ve learned tend to become more complex so that the growth and wisdom both become even more so. Such is life, Donna!!! Another phenomenal post! Thank you! 🌹

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    1. Thank you Amy! You are wise beyond your years, and so right about the fairy tales which have done so much more harm than good. You understand this. I guess in order to become a polished stone we much get churned around a bit! From reading your posts, I can tell you follow your guidance more so than not!! (like with your neighbor for example!) You are what my grandmother would call “A real trooper!!” That is a compliment!! Take care!! xx

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      1. I am so touched by your words, Donna. So much! Even as a child I saw so much wrong and I questioned everything for not much of anything made sense. I “knew” what was being taught especially in the religion department was wrong. And I got in a lot of trouble for saying so. I’ve learned to follow my guidance. That was not always so. LONG story there. But now I do and there is nothing anyone can do or say to make me change. I would have loved to meet your Grandma 👵! ❤

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        1. You would have loved my grandmother! You two would have gotten along just fine!! There are people on the planet, like you, who were placed here to be system busters – meaning you don’t put up with much crap and expose lies and fraud! You are not afraid to speak the truth and have loyalty and integrity! You are a Starseed and have come to earth at a very challenging time to help wake people up! Thank you!!!

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          1. Waking people up has been tough, dear friend. I keep seemingly hitting a brick wall. Yet there is just something deep within me I just will not compromise nor will I give up. Maybe soon my vacation comes. LOL Now that would be really nice!! 😎

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            1. It can be really challenging, to be sure. I know one who was allowed to retire from “brick walls” at 70!!! She heard very clearly – ok, it’s your time now! There is always hope!! Thanks for being you in the world!! xx

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