Freedom: Now You Can Have the Keys!

How to be from Negative Circumstances

Take a minute to ponder these questions: What does freedom look like in your lifeHow would you know if you were free?  And, why is freedom so important?  In the past, I associated freedom with the physical, through my body.  Running always felt like freedom to me, however, there have been few times in my life when my body felt the ease of running.  What does physical freedom really feel like then?  And what about emotional freedom or spiritual freedom?  Have you ever experienced these freedoms?

I’ve been confronted many times with the implications of continuing to live day-to-day from a very limited self-imposed slave mentality.  I look back and see its prevalence, to the point of believing my soul’s mission is to understand and experience true freedom.  It felt like I’d been fighting inside a paper bag trying to get free for lifetimes.  I also believe “guilt” played a large part in being my jailer, guilt from believing the thought “I am a failure.”

There’s no way I could ever be free with that going on.  The side effect of such a mentality also ensures a consistent dose of self-punishment.

Somewhere in my unconsciousness lived a slave (someone who isn’t free) and this slave-part wanted to be acknowledged and healed.  From what I could tell, my slave part wanted to do a good job and get lost in a task, be a hard worker, keep its head down and be invisible.  It didn’t like confrontation and was content to “stay within the lines.”  It also wanted to be left alone . . . to lick its wounds, sort-of-speak.  Pain, suffering and inner violence (self-punishment) were my friends and comfort through my darkest times.

It’s backwards, finding comfort and pleasure in pain and suffering . . .
it’s also an illusion of safety.

In a strange way, I’ve been able to feel content within my self-imposed jail.  I knew what to expect.  I was “in control” as a follower, a hard worker, and did as I was told.  I was really good at this and received lots of praise and recognition as being a capable, able, dependable worker.  I remember that my second-grade report card said I was conscientious.  I had no idea what that meant at the time, but everyone else thought it was good.  So back then, in second grade (7 years old) I already had a well-developed slave on board, keep your head down, be a good-girl, and do as you’re told.

Rebel?  Not even in my consciousness, or if it was, it was buried quite deep.

The words “learned helplessness” came to mind.

From Wikipedia:
Learned helplessness is behavior typical of a human or non-human animal and occurs where an animal endures repeatedly painful or otherwise aversive stimuli which it is unable to escape or avoid.  After such experience, the organism often fails to learn or accept “escape” or “avoidance” in new situations where such behavior would likely be effective.  In other words, the organism learned that it is helpless in situations where there is a presence of aversive stimuli and has accepted that it has lost control, and thus gives up trying.  Such an organism is said to have acquired learned helplessness.

Learned helplessness is a very real thing and I believe it had stopped me from recognizing my true self and from realizing, although the jailers were gone, I remained in prison.

There was a huge payoff to staying small.  I had total control and could manage a good living.  The cost?  Not living a life I loved, and not having freedom.  If I were to “step out” my life may have gotten a little out of control and I may have had to take responsibility.  I may have had to be impulsive, spontaneous and take risks.  I may even have had self-worth and self-love as a matter of course.

My suffering would have ended.

My contentment at being a slave was however being tested, it was no longer working since my soul demanded I grow.  Resolving the issue of slavery must have been really important to me and have existed for over many lifetimes.

I usually cry when the Olympics are on.  I cry when people overcome great adversity in order to rise to be champions!  It’s because this is what my soul really wants for me.  Somewhere inside me is a champion that’s been stuffed down, stamped on and told to be quiet.  Time to brush it off, get to know this champion and empower it.

When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves.  Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms—to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.

viktor frankl

I’ve included below a story about a prisoner who overcame imprisonment and found freedom in jail.  I read it about 25 years ago and it really struck a chord in me and gave me great hope.  It shows that if one can be free in a prison, one can be free anywhere!

Survival in China Jail: One American’s Saga

(by Takashi Oka, Staff correspondent of The Christian Science Monitor APRIL 1, 1980)

Sydney Rittenberg is an American who lived in China since 1945 with his Chinese wife and four children. He stayed in China after the communist takeover to maintain some link between China and the US. Everything went well enough until one night, at the height of the cultural revolution, a carload of soldiers came to his home and dragged him away to prison. He was in solitary confinement for 10 years. He left prison in good health and spirits and without bitterness.

How could he have survived such an experience? Mr. Rittenberg had to get back to fundamentals. What made life worth living? Wife, children, friends, books, music, food? All these he loved. But what really counted, he decided, was the sense of having made some contribution, however small, to the long river of human progress, to the cause of human happiness. Even enclosed within four walls, he could make his contribution. It was the quality of the contribution that counted, not its scale.

He defined freedom to himself as “the ability to develop a rational course of action based on facts and aimed at human happiness,” and decided in line with this interpretation that “whether I was free or not depended on me,” not on his jailers.

So Mr. Rittenberg talked to his guards about anything and everything including his boyhood in Charleston, South Carolina, methods of treating hiccups, and all sorts of facets of life in the United States. I’m making a contribution, he kept telling himself as he did so. I’m making a contribution.

Mr. Rittenberg also decided to keep his cell spotlessly clean. Whatever scraps of rags he had, he used to scrub and scrub until he could literally eat off the floor. When the keepers came around with their mops, he could truthfully tell them that there was no work for them to do.

He could see that his actions, as well as his speech, had an effect on his guards. He was proving to himself that even in prison one human being could communicate effectively with another.

All this is not to say that Rittenberg had an easy time of it. He reports that every morning he came slowly awake with the crushing realization that he was still in prison Every morning for 10 years, he had to recontextualize his situation.

“I’m not passive. I’m learning something, doing something, thinking about something. I’m going to live on, I’m not going to die.” As thus he disciplined his thinking, he found that his entire prison experience was “not a subtraction from life, but an addition, not a black hole but part of my ongoing education.”

Mr. Ritttenberg stayed active and refused to let his circumstances drag him down. He triumphed and lived without focusing on suffering. He maintained his priorities and in that, he was free.

Regarding the public service industry and the many jobs I’ve had:

I’ve come to understand that I experienced slavery over and over again so I could wake up to the fact that I was in a jail cell of my own making.  My real job then, was to find freedom within my self-imposed prison.  I could do this only by accepting “my cell” without resistance.  I had to choose my jail cell and choose to take responsibility for continually manifesting this situation – because I created the cell to begin with in order to experience captivity (slavery) – and then, and only then, could I break out of jail into freedom.

Click here if you would like to read the entire China Prisoner article.

Mr. Rittenberg’s book is called The Man Who Stayed Behind and is available on Amazon.

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30 thoughts on “Freedom: Now You Can Have the Keys!

  1. Its amazing how our back posts often are more prevalent today… I have been finding out some of my own searching through my archives as I have not felt much like composing new thoughts… Maybe because I am afraid I may say too much what is om my ‘mind’…. And forget to listen to what my ‘heart’ as I listen and discern the Universal Plan and what my instincts are telling me..

    It seems we have similar natures… As I too can sob at the most silly of things… And share the Deep Dive into self of learning to let go of guilt, unworthiness as I have learnt to love myself warts and all, from my childhood conditioning of feeling that lack of love I felt from my Mother and somehow I was to blame…

    Each of us are on that journey, each releasing a locked part of ourselves which has kept us prisoners within our own perspectives…
    Now I feel many are learning to turn the key, and not understanding the long journey of self discovery we have been on for such a long while… Are not handling what they find once they unlock those inner emotions.. So they become confused, lashing out in blame and anger, as they do not know how to deal with what is being brought up to the surface that now needs to be finally cleared out and purged for good..
    Many are afraid to look in the mirror, so point their fingers at others as it is easier to do..

    Wonderful Post Donna….
    And thank you for sharing it again… I hope more read the wisdom within your words my friend
    Love and Blessings
    Sue ❤ ❤ ❤

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    1. Hi Sue!!
      You absolutely nailed it! On many points. I was just thinking today how some posts from a year to two years ago are very prevalent today. There came a point months ago now where I just stopped writing. Perhaps I’ve written all I need to for now. I just let it go and don’t think too much about it. Thank God I don’t have any pressure to write – quite frankly, it just wouldn’t work.

      How true, seems like our generation of light workers had a bit of time to process our shadow selves, relive pain and trauma from past timelines and heal. People today are literally being thrown into the fire. Now or never. Hopefully the work we’ve done processing has made it easier for them! My slavery posts come to mind – that was brutal going through releasing myself from slavery on so many levels.

      There is no hope for some, just the way it is. They will not wake up this lifetime. I have to keep remembering: This is humanity’s process, this is for them to see, feel and participate in, or not. It’s not for me to get actively involved (unless I receive guidance), only to remain neutral and when asked – share my truth with others. That’s not easy.

      I’m so glad you came by and thanks again for your very insightful comment!! Very much appreciated!
      Much love,

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      1. Thank you Donna… and yes you are right we have been processing both ourselves and our reality for many years, so have an advantage… Agree many will remain sleeping oblivious to what we have come to understand… But we are all of us on our various levels of progression, and remaining neutral within that middle ground is a fine balancing act given what we know.. So yes not easy at all Donna..
        Its a beautiful day here today…. I just mixed matched a short post myself… Still not feeling inspired to write in detail….. It will happen when its ready to…
        Sending LOVE and enjoy your weekend also…
        Much love right back ❤


  2. Hi, Donna! WE’ve both come a long way since you first posted this. Fast forward to NOW it feels as if life itself has become a prison and the fear that is pounding away at everyone is capable of destroying all. I know personally I’ve had to face fears that I “thought” were resolved. I’ve had to choose a happy attitude amongst this horror. Even though my free spirit feels imprisoned I have to courageously change the attitude quickly enforcing a policy, no victims here!

    I believe this is THE time for those of us who have the courage to set ourselves free. And I mean free. In fact, I chose one of my little angel cards and the word freedom is on it. Despite the raging insanity all around me, I am finding freedom within a very real prison. That entails getting back to basics and only focusing on today. Tomorrow is not guaranteed. All we have is NOW. Nothing else. I refuse to spend my “last” day on this earth in fear! NO!

    I am coming back to listen to the videos. At a time like this I kind of wish we had wireless so I could move my laptop to the kitchen to listen while I make my cats’ food. But, being hardwired (a GOOD thing!) I have to make time to sit and listen. They look fascinating so I have every intention of listening to them!!

    I encourage you not to bend your knee to fear. Be aware of the illusions and the intention smoke screen that is being thrown at us. This is truly the time when all we have learned and done comes to a critical peak. It is here we learn how to free ourselves. Much love to you!! xo

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    1. Hi Amy!! I’m on ethernet too! Only way to go. You sure are on a great track, and yes we have come a long way since this was first posted. I’ve been really focusing on being in the world but not of it – getting into the ‘drama’ takes my vibration right down – I know because I’ve done it – and it’s not a nice place to be. Fear does that, and buying into the fear of the mind can really get one down!! We can all be free here, regardless of what’s going on around us – and like you very nicely stated – in the now, and as you always demonstrate – in nature! I’d love to know what you think about these videos – watching them helped me gain more empowerment through what feels the most like truth of all I’ve heard. There’s so much going on and getting caught up in it wasn’t helping me. There’s a lot of anger and division out there and I’d like to stay out of that part of it all. Thanks for coming by – much love! Donna

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    2. FYI …. My Inner Guidance right from the start told me NOT to believe what we are being told. My husband for one thinks I am absolutely out of my mind for NOT believing. And for saying weeks ago I believe this virus started with 5G in China. I could go on ….. Believe me when I tell you in only listening to part 1, that I am shaking with anger! I’ve yet to discover what this whole story says but right now my Inner Guidance is outraged! Oh, dear friend, as I have tears springing to my eyes, what evil has mankind become?

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        1. K! I just finished listening to all three videos. A lot of info I did not know yet when listening to it, makes such sense! Now I know why my Inner Guidance has been SO strong not to believe the media. The whole agenda has been to get people in severe fear and, Donna, I pray really pray that the positive end video 3 described will come true. As of today we are being told it is mandatory to wear masks outside. I was so angry when I heard this, I ranted for about 1/2 hour! The ONE place that has not been stolen from me was the park and now I must wear a mask? This virus is just going to fall from the sky and get me?
          Every opportunity I get I will take that damned mask off my face. I’m not about to walk around struggling to breathe normally and then handling my cameras on top of that. No!
          Last week the media was saying a LION in a zoo got the virus from a worker. Really? Since then, nothing. A few weeks back same thing only it was a dog. Then nothing. You CANNOT transmit a virus to an animal! It is NOT possible. People are NOT thinking! The fear that is so palatable out there is horrendous! This has got to end soon NOT with mandatory vaccinations which will kill me, but the Cabal gone and we the 99% live the 1000 years of peace on earth. I will NOT give into this hype of fear!
          Thank you SO much for these videos. I resonate with them. Pieces of the puzzle have dropped into place for me. Bless you! xo

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          1. Watching these videos so much of the pieces fell into place fo me too. There was so much conflicting info out there it was ridiculous. I couldn’t piece any logic together. Now I know why – many story lines. It’s outrageous – mandatory masks, like she mentioned won’t stop anything virus related at all. Times are so weird. The arrests have been happening, but we didn’t get the 10 days of no internet or forced isolation. Not sure the status of the pedo round up yet. When people are turned into weapons against each other – wow, so hard to believe people are believing it.

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            1. I’m with you, Donna. I’m stunned that people are NOT thinking! It just goes to show you how many sheep there really are. I’m a NURSE and I know masks do absolutely nothing but increase the fear factor. Surgical masks do prevent germs from the person who is wearing that mask to enter the room but it is not so the other way around. *sigh* Don’t quit shining your light! Shine on and together those of us who do shine will assist this world to a much better place. OH how I detest lies! And basically all that is happening right now are lies. Love to you! xo

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        2. PS As I pointed out to hubby today none of the news anchors are wearing mask and neither is Como. Como also FYI looks like he recently got his hair cut. If he can, why can’t we get our hair done????

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  3. Donna, this is so moving . Right now Ron and I are in quarantine due to the Pandemic of Covid 19. My life , it seems, has always been in the path of a dark cloud overhead. I don’t want to sound petty. This Covid19 is real. People are dying all over the world. Yet my depression is real. I wear a different facade I’m my day to day circle of life, but this nagging feeling that I will never reach my inner expectations haunt me every day. My life is good and functional to most people, but my accomplishments are yet to be. With our current circumstances I feel trapped. Reading all of this , I don’t feel alone. Thanks for sharing. ❤️❤️❤️❤️

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    1. Hi Gail, thank you for being so honest with your feelings. My heart goes out to you as I know you are a wonderful, caring and generous person. What I found out is that many people are going through a kind of dark night of the soul. There is some good out of this – it’s exactly what you are experiencing – examining what has stopped you in this life and allowing for the trapped feeling and depression to be felt – without judgment. We’ve been given some time to examine what’s important to us and what complete sovereignty is.


  4. Reblogged this on The Path to My Heart and commented:

    A blog post I wrote a while back that seems to have some pertinence today. I woke up with this in mind. Suppression of humanity is a real thing if we allow it, and unless each and every one of us can find a way out of that suppression, specifically held within the mind – we are destined to live without freedom. A self-imposed prison if you will. It’s been a life long lesson for me and apparently coming up for another round.


  5. Excellent post, Donna!! Absolutely powerful. I have gained freedom in so many ways yet still to this day recognize patterns that still enslave me. Once recognized however, that is the first step to change that pattern towards freedom. This key element in my life, leaving the prison behind and the comfort in dysfunction, is the main reason why I do not associate with my family and why my family doesn’t like me. I scare them and also deep down they are jealous of me. This Journey I am on is too important and so “selfishly” I quietly close the door on those who do not comprehend the massive work I am doing on myself nor who will accept me for who I have become. I’ve learned to live in Love. Does this mean I’m perfect and my Journey is over? No. Far from it. Thank you, dear friend, for giving me words to think about today. Much Love to you! 🌹


    1. Exactly right on Amy!! Your journey is important!! So many people on the path of self-growth and love end up estranged from their bio family. It’s a very unfortunate thing, but also necessary in most cases, like yours. However on the bright side – the door is opened for new, supportive family!! Thanks so much for sharing your growth process with me!! And I am happy to hear you have peace in your heart so soon after your mom’s passing. Much love to you my friend!! ❤️

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      1. It is difficult to explain, Donna, but even though I really do have Peace does not discount I have anguish within my Heart and that I miss my Mother in ways that tear me to pieces. I am just allowing the process to unfold and in so doing when the tears come I let them fall. I chase away the depression by forcing myself to do things that are beneficial to me, either by resting, reading or watching a movie, hiking, biking, taking pictures, spending time with my cats …. whatever it takes, yes even writing. Writing to me is a supreme outlet for me where I can voice my emotions and to have my pain validated. WP is my MAIN source of comfort. I was so wrong about my family because once upon a time I thought it would take a major death for this family to start acting like family. We are now on major death 2 and still this family has not learned how to support and to reach out. How sad for them. Sometimes I feel as if somehow my biological family is not mine because no one and I mean no one, mirrors me. In the end, my Mother did. And for this I rejoice!!! ❤

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        1. Thanks for sharing yourself so honestly Amy. As you know my mom’s journey is close to an end and I don’t know what feelings will surface for me. I can’t even imagine, so I appreciate what you are experiencing and sharing. I am so happy to hear though that you and your mom persevered through the tough stuff and came to love each other!! Absolutely a reason to rejoice!! ❤️❤️

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          1. Honey, I am not “reacting” as I “thought” I would so no one, inclusive of you, can “predict” how you will act when your Mom passes. If it were not for my persistence in calling her every day, the relationship that came to be would not have been. It took a lot of will power for me to call her at first. I believe I will be writing a lot about my experiences in the near future about those phone calls, and how I have walked away and still am doing so, the dysfunction handed to me as a child. Just hang in there and if there is any advice I can give you it is this …. come to Peace NOW in your Heart about your Mother and even if she does not recognize you, tell her you forgive her. If that is too much, just tell her you LOVE her. It was too much for my Mom to hear that I forgave her (intuition) so I did not. Instead I said I LOVE YOU, MOM a lot. (smile) Hang in there, Donna. I know what that waiting is like. It is hell on earth. (((HUGS))) 💝


            1. Thanks Amy!! I can say I have peace in my heart and my mom knows I love her. Like you, I made sure of that. I have forgiven the past and all that’s left is my own stuff I’m working on. The other thing I made sure of was that she knows I feel her love for me and accept it knowing she did the best she could. I am worried about her struggle with her own demons from not being able to forgive herself. She has not been able to release anything with my sisters and I even though we have given her many chances. I am also feeling I have some unexpressed feelings of deep sadness that are going to arise. You are right, it’s the waiting that is horrible. I’m also in the middle of a move in the UK to be completed the end of September – I have to trust Divine timing. I also have two sisters, brother-in-law, nieces, nephews, cousins in Tampa and lots of friends in Ft. Myers and Naples who are not evacuating from Irma. Keeping peace is a challenge, bit it’s all I can do! Thanks again for all your support Amy!! ❤️

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  6. Wow, great post. I can definitely relate to putting myself in a prison and not taking risks because it feels safe, but I’ve come to realize that it isn’t making me happy and just isn’t enough any more. Best of luck in your journey forward. Much love – speak766

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    1. Hello speak766 and thanks for your comment! I am glad you have found your keys -when being safe isn’t working anymore and knowing you want more out of life. I am close and thanks for your well-wishes! Much appreciated! Much love to you too! Donna

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