Learn to Become a Compassionate Witness

I had a very powerful experience of consciously choosing misery as a way of being when I was about 8 years old. A decision that would stay with me for a lot of my life.

It was a good day at school. I was feeling happy and enjoying the bus ride home. As the bus stopped in front of my house, the smile left my face. I looked out the window and, I remember it very clearly, I had the thought: I wish I could go home and be happy. My next thought was but I can’t stop this now. I’ve been this way for a long time, I can’t just change. For a split second I even had a picture of me happy at home flash up and thought, oh no, that’s not me, it wouldn’t feel right. It was an opportunity that I passed up. A life decision made in one second on a bus at 8 years old. I thought I had too much to lose and didn’t even wonder where the thought of wanting to be happy came from. That would have been good to know. Why didn’t I believe that thought? I stuffed it down.

I was invested. I believed the thought, If I stopped making my parents feel guilty, they would hurt me more. I was punishing them with my misery. I can’t fault my inner child in any way. She did what she had to do at the time. She shut down to protect herself. As an adult, I have another choice. I am no longer in that situation. It is safe for me to question beliefs, feel those feelings I pushed away and face my fears without identifying with them. Sophie, my inner child aspect, had to face these things when her piece came back into my life. She ended up laughing hysterically at her demons!

Understanding that we mistakenly identify with the unconscious belief, it’s story and subsequent emotions is a very important key in opening a door into healing.

I still have to catch myself now and again as I fall into my misery addiction, remembering it’s not who I am and step into compassionate witness. Judgment of self and denial of feelings only prolonged my misery. I am learning to love myself and love my misery, along with all my other human feelings. I have found them to be equal, and all welcome.

There have been so many gifts from both
the lightness and the darkness.
I am grateful for each!

It’s good to “know thyself” and develop good discernment. There is a lot of “stuff” flying around the collective unconsciousness. The more you know what is yours and what is not yours, the better off you are.

Be kind to yourself and others!


Remember to:

  • observe what is going on with your emotions and feelings instead of reacting
  • become a compassionate witness of yourself
  • Give yourself a break
  • Take nothing personal . . . especially any negative thoughts about yourself or others!
  • For help with questioning negative beliefs, please check out Byron Katie’s TheWork.com!

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3 thoughts on “Learn to Become a Compassionate Witness

  1. I can so relate to this post. I still to this day at times catch myself falling into an old unhealthy misery pattern that I learned from my childhood. It’s familiar. It’s what I did. But this is not who I am today because of the LONG years of healing I consciously chose. So I deliberately talk myself out of staying in this unhealthy pattern to create a new way and stick to it. You keep up the great work on yourself for you deserve LOVE. I just wrote something that I have yet to post about this very subject. It is when we LOVE ourselves that is when others who know Love as well will be attracted into our lives. Or something like that. I’ve spoken to my Mom about Love and Happiness and she knowing of my “real life situation” has seen pictures of me which really prove that I do Love myself and that I really have happy inside of me instead of misery. And so do you! ☺️💞🌸

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    • Hi AmyRose! Wonderful, thanks for your honest sharing! Compassionate witnessing is the best I can hope for and a lot better than judging myself and falling into a deeper, self-inflicted, misery pattern! I am so happy to hear about your journey with misery and your conscious choice in deliberately choosing not to go there. I really appreciate the time and effort you have put into your healing, it shows. Cheers to a fellow companion on the path – and you too keep up the great work! When 2 or more are gathered…. even in cyberspace!! 🙂

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